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7 Red Lines: The Importance of Having a Realistic Approach to Change
People come wanting a solution to a train wreck of a marriage: Save our marriage and transform it into a truly GREAT relationship. "Certainly. That's what I'm here for and I love to help people do... Let's get cracking...". And then they proceed to tell me how it should be constructed based on myths, what they heard, opinions and preferences that are contrary to how healthy relationships actually function; in what ridiculously short time frame it should occur; with minimal to no actual study, practice and effort on their part because "really it shouldn't be this hard" nor "take this long." And then if they don't accomplish their goals in those parameters they quit therapy saying, "Well, we tried. Counseling just doesn't work." And they stay discouraged and stuck.
Cheater! Cheater! Booger eater! 15 cheaters who got their comeuppance.
Don't cheat. Duh!
Make a vow, keep a vow. Duh!
However, for those who are considering an affair, and are stupid enough to listen to consequence-free sounding "advice" like one popular cheating website promotes, "Life is too short: Have an affair.", let me offer this counter-advice:
"Life is too short: Be a man/woman — Live with honor."
"Execution of the Cheater" Pledge to Honor Your Relationship
For years I have said that relationships will no longer tolerate sloppiness nor carelessness. Cheating is short-lived enjoyment that destroys too much. It's like burning down a cathedral just to fry an egg. It's time to "execute cheating" and put an end to cheating. I know we can't eradicate cheating from the world, but YOU can choose. It's time to take a stand and PLEDGE TO HONOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Honor used to mean something. It still can. Be a man of honor. Be a woman of honor. There is glory in honor. Let's bring honor back. Listen to this song and like this page.